Women have a bad rap of being emotional. Tears, tantrums and breakdowns are common with a lot of women. But despite the reputation, most women don't have as much control as men think they do.
Sure, there are some that really can drum up the waterworks when they need to. They feel it is a way to get what they want from men, but we're not all that way. Most of us don't really mean to cry, or just can't help it. The tears are real, and they sometimes happen for the silliest reasons, like commercials or greeting cards, but we're pretty good at recovering quickly.
So if tears make you squeamish, just hold tight and they'll soon pass. Lend us your shoulder for a second and know that it is just part of who we are. With how we communicate, our mixed signals and emotional outbursts, it is hard to believe that we really don't mean to confuse you!
It's just how we are. Women are great at multi-tasking, but sometimes it leaves everyone else confused. We may change what we're doing halfway through to finish up something else we started. Our conversations may seem disjointed or mixed up because we change directions mid thought. You may not think we are listening because we're also breaking up a fight between children, sorting through the mail and carrying on a conversation with you, but we are. Hang in there and try to keep up!
Hopefully this article shed some light on the mysteries of women. If you ever get confused again, you're not alone. Whether it's your best friend, a relative, or your romantic partner, as close as you feel to that person, he or she is still a different person. As well as you think you know him or her, you don't know everything. You can't! So when he or she says something to you that just doesn't sound right, or claims that you took something the wrong way, remember that he or she is coming from a place that you really don't know.
Chances are they left something out of what they said because they assumed you'd know what they meant, but if you took it the wrong way, then you obviously didn't. Or even worse, your interpretation of what they just said is based on something you misinterpreted earlier, resulting in a "misinterpretation snowball. Should you have known better? Or should the other person not have assumed you knew better? Who's to blame?
That's the wrong question, of course. We are not perfect communicators since language is an imperfect tool for communication. Everything has to be interpreted: Thoughts have to be interpreted in terms of the words the speaker uses, and those words, in turn, have be interpreted back into ideas by the listener.
The problem is that everyone has a unique basis of interpretation, which is unavoidable. So don't point fingers; instead, try to understand each other, where each other is coming from, and what each other really means. And remember that the best way to improve your communication is to do more of it. This article was originally published at Psychology Today. Reprinted with permission from the author.
Sign in. In a recent study at the Department of Psychology at NTNU, women reported that men often misinterpret their signals of friendliness as sexual interest. Conversely, the men in the study reported that women often misinterpret their signals of sexual interest as friendliness. In most areas of psychology, there is little to no difference between genders: mental capacity, intellectual achievements, food preferences -- men and women are all more or less the same.
But when it comes to reproduction and challenges related to finding a sexual partner, there are suddenly differences to be found. Evolutionary psychology is the study of how the human mind has evolved, developed and adapted over time.
One thing that evolutionary psychologists are specifically interested in is gendered sexual psychology between cultures and social groups. Seen through the lens of evolutionary psychology, we can better understand why men often wrongly assume that women who smile and laugh during conversation may want to sleep with them. A man's ability to reproduce is all about seizing every opportunity. He has to spend both money and time on courtship, which still may not lead to sex. But it costs even more to not try, because then he won't be able to reproduce.
But that's not how it works for women," Bendixen explains. A woman can have sex with multiple men over a short period of time without producing any more children. So for men, it is a low-risk, potentially high-reward situation for men to have sex with women whenever the opportunity presents itself. On the other hand, the cost is potentially great for a woman if she thinks that a man is more sexually interested than she is.
A woman risks pregnancy, birth, nursing and raising the child, as well as lost oppotunities to reproduce with others.
Across thousands of generations, women's psychology has evolved to set the bar higher, which means they need much clearer signals than men before they consider sex. The recent study at NTNU included heterosexual participants between the ages of 18 and Fifty-nine per cent of participants were women. The participants were all heterosexual because sexual intercourse between men and women is necessary for reproduction.
Half of the women and 40 per cent of the men were in relationships.
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